My PRIDE
Wednesday, June 28, 2006
This year my romp through Denver's Gay Pride weekend, and ensuing Eliches Gay Day went something like this...
OMG THIS IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL HOTEL I'VE EVER STAYED IN (and I've stayed in a lot); what are we going to do?; BIG FUCKING FLEA MARKET; You're where?; Cheesecake Factory (need I say more?); not unless you're 21; so that's how a jackrabbit works (and why!); this happens so early because of the lesbians; NEW RESTAURANT plus friends ROCKS!!! (Damn good bloody mary too!); first time I visited ALL of the vendors; wonderful architecture for a club (you're not supposed to notice the architecture); RAINBOW; we rode everything; If someone dies... it will ruin my pride forever; diabetic comas bad; thank god homo again; I forgot what it was like to have a friend who is not afraid to touch me.
BEST FUCKING PRIDE EVER
posted by ZEUS @ 11:05 PM, No comment,
Outing
Saturday, June 03, 2006
Disclaimer: Rant
If you are someone who is Bisexual, Lesbian, Gay, Transgender, Intersexed, or maybe even have a secret that you don't want outed to the whole world you know some measure of what its like to be outed. You have put yourself through a lessened version of a possible outing during sleepless nights, car rides alone, and waking nightmares more than one hundred times easily. And yet somehow we all seem to be intersted in what everyone else's secrets are. Is he really gay? Did you hear what happened to her last weekend? Can you believe that they _____? It doesn't really matter what the secret is, we want to know it. We can't put ourselves in the shoes of that other person who was worried about being outed even though we know exactly what they are going through as they worry about keeping it.
Granted, some have said that truly virtuous people live lives in which there is no need for secrets. And I have even heard people boast that they are beyond needing to keep secrets. A favorite of mine is that "I would never say anything behind someone else's back that I wouldn't say to their face." Of coarse in the right moment I probably would say a lot of things, but that doesn't mean I am going to go out and DO IT. Honestly, nobody is an "angel" in this hypocritical existence.
Yet it strikes me that if we would just let people know that we loved them or accepted them no matter what, would this not be a better message than going around trying to learn secrets through others? I know that my best friends are people who I do love in this way and who I don't care about their misgivings. Then again, I am willing to be someone who keeps their secrets rather than spilling them to the world. Being a presenter for safe zone really HAS taught me something.
I think we should all try to be like this more often though. Try to go 5 minutes, an hour, or even a day without assuming something about someone that you have not heard from the horse's mouth. Let them tell you who they are and see who you might get to know.
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